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Deciding Whether or Not You Should Break UpAt some point in your relationship, you might begin to consider breaking up with your significant other. This can be a very stressful decision to make and should never be taken lightly.
Before taking that final step and actually breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to take several things under consideration. First, weigh the good qualities versus the bad in the relationship. Go ahead and make a list of all of the positive characteristics and all of the negative characteristics of your partner and of the relationship in general. Don�t just compare the lengths of the lists, however, also take into consideration the importance of each. You may find that your list of negatives is a bit longer but contains only small annoyances, such as the car your significant other drives, while the list of positive qualities contains far more meaningful and important factors.
When considering your partner, you also need to think about the long term. Is this someone you can see yourself being with for years to come, or will these negative qualities slowly wear away at you until you are unhappy with the person you are with? At the same time, you need to consider if there are any other people you know that you would rather be with. If there is someone else that you prefer now, then you will likely be very unhappy in the future as you start to find other people you would rather be with.
Of course, the main thing you need to consider is whether or not you are happy with your current partner. Consider whether or not your partner treats you equally. If he or she treats you like a child or like he or she is better than you, you are likely to be very unhappy in your relationship later. Trust is another factor to consider. If you are unable to trust your partner, you either need to really work toward building that trust or start looking for a new relationship.
If you have come to the conclusion that the relationship needs to end, be sure to be honest with your partner and to avoid being misleading. Being honest doesn�t mean that you have to be cruel or nasty. Simply explain to him or her that you do not see a chance for the relationship to go any further and that you think it is time for both of you to move on. If the person asks questions about why you are ending the relationship, be honest yet kind with your explanations. Let the person know that he or she is a great person and you believe there is someone out there for them, but that you are not the one.
Avoid placing blame on the person you are breaking up with. Your goal is to walk away from the break up leaving the person feeling as though the relationship was simply a poor fit for both of you. Make it clear to the person that you don�t see any significant flaws in his or her looks, personality, or intellect. Otherwise, the person will torment him or herself or years about the flaw you pointed out.
Above all, do not continue having a physical relationship. This will mislead the person and make him or her feel as if there is still a chance to get back together. Do whatever you can to clearly let the person know that the relationship is over and that the romance will not be rekindled in the future.
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